Exhausted, Unseen
Exhausted, Unseen
Exhausted, Unseen
Smiling outside, Conflicted inside
Smiling outside, Conflicted inside
Smiling outside, Conflicted inside
In 2015, Tamar was a father of three going through divorce and emotional blur. He had climbed the trades as a journeyman and looked successful on paper, but inside he was just trying to survive, playing the entertainer and energizer for everyone else.
In 2015, Tamar was a father of three going through divorce and emotional blur. He had climbed the trades as a journeyman and looked successful on paper, but inside he was just trying to survive, playing the entertainer and energizer for everyone else.
In 2015, Tamar was a father of three going through divorce and emotional blur. He had climbed the trades as a journeyman and looked successful on paper, but inside he was just trying to survive, playing the entertainer and energizer for everyone else.
The challenge
The challenge
The challenge
He poured into everyone, then snapped at the people who loved him most. He had no boundaries, felt drained and used, and couldn’t explain his pain without exploding or withdrawing.
He poured into everyone, then snapped at the people who loved him most. He had no boundaries, felt drained and used, and couldn’t explain his pain without exploding or withdrawing.
He poured into everyone, then snapped at the people who loved him most. He had no boundaries, felt drained and used, and couldn’t explain his pain without exploding or withdrawing.
Tamar
Tamar
Tamar
The Journey
The Journey
The Journey
Around 2020, Tamar hit rock bottom across relationships and career. His family finally confronted him: he was draining himself chasing affirmation in the community, then expecting home to recharge him, while they felt unseen and uncompensated for what they were carrying.
Starting Point
At the same time, he was transitioning careers into something that felt meaningful, like he was using a gift, but he did not yet understand how to use it with balance. He realized he did not know how to elevate his career and honor his family with the same focus. That was the moment he stopped pretending it was sustainable and accepted that something had to change.
He started at ground zero by owning a hard truth: it was not anyone else’s responsibility to make him happy or make him believe in himself. He began showing up for himself in small, consistent ways, especially when it felt uncomfortable. He learned to say no without making it mean he was selfish. He began paying attention to how his actions affected the people around him, not in an expected “performer” way, but in a real, present way. Vulnerability became a practice, not a weakness, and he slowly replaced burying pain with naming what was actually going on.
Starting Point
At the same time, he was transitioning careers into something that felt meaningful, like he was using a gift, but he did not yet understand how to use it with balance. He realized he did not know how to elevate his career and honor his family with the same focus. That was the moment he stopped pretending it was sustainable and accepted that something had to change.
He started at ground zero by owning a hard truth: it was not anyone else’s responsibility to make him happy or make him believe in himself. He began showing up for himself in small, consistent ways, especially when it felt uncomfortable. He learned to say no without making it mean he was selfish. He began paying attention to how his actions affected the people around him, not in an expected “performer” way, but in a real, present way. Vulnerability became a practice, not a weakness, and he slowly replaced burying pain with naming what was actually going on.
Starting Point
At the same time, he was transitioning careers into something that felt meaningful, like he was using a gift, but he did not yet understand how to use it with balance. He realized he did not know how to elevate his career and honor his family with the same focus. That was the moment he stopped pretending it was sustainable and accepted that something had to change.
He started at ground zero by owning a hard truth: it was not anyone else’s responsibility to make him happy or make him believe in himself. He began showing up for himself in small, consistent ways, especially when it felt uncomfortable. He learned to say no without making it mean he was selfish. He began paying attention to how his actions affected the people around him, not in an expected “performer” way, but in a real, present way. Vulnerability became a practice, not a weakness, and he slowly replaced burying pain with naming what was actually going on.
“For the first time, I gave myself permission to find peace, and it changed how I loved and led.”
“For the first time, I gave myself permission to find peace, and it changed how I loved and led.”
Tamar
Tamar
“For the first time, I gave myself permission to find peace, and it changed how I loved and led.”
Tamar
As he stayed consistent, the results showed up close to home first. He noticed his children smiling more, his wife feeling safer and happier, and his circle tightening into people who cared about him for who he was, not what he could provide. He became more intentional with friends, more intimate in conversation, and less driven by outside opinions. Mentors also played a key role. One challenged him to rest beyond sleep and prepare mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Another followed up with real accountability, proving that support can be energy given, not energy taken. Over time, Tamar gained the tools to protect his energy, choose healthier circles, and rebuild his confidence from the inside out.
Reflections
Today, Tamar Jackson knows his non-negotiable values and lives by healthy boundaries that act like directions, not walls. He is more present with his children, more grounded at home, and less controlled by insecurity or buried pain. He trusts himself to face what he used to avoid, and he has a clearer sense of purpose. What once felt like survival has been replaced with steadier peace, and that peace now fuels how he serves, leads, and coaches others.
As he stayed consistent, the results showed up close to home first. He noticed his children smiling more, his wife feeling safer and happier, and his circle tightening into people who cared about him for who he was, not what he could provide. He became more intentional with friends, more intimate in conversation, and less driven by outside opinions. Mentors also played a key role. One challenged him to rest beyond sleep and prepare mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Another followed up with real accountability, proving that support can be energy given, not energy taken. Over time, Tamar gained the tools to protect his energy, choose healthier circles, and rebuild his confidence from the inside out.
Reflections
Today, Tamar Jackson knows his non-negotiable values and lives by healthy boundaries that act like directions, not walls. He is more present with his children, more grounded at home, and less controlled by insecurity or buried pain. He trusts himself to face what he used to avoid, and he has a clearer sense of purpose. What once felt like survival has been replaced with steadier peace, and that peace now fuels how he serves, leads, and coaches others.
As he stayed consistent, the results showed up close to home first. He noticed his children smiling more, his wife feeling safer and happier, and his circle tightening into people who cared about him for who he was, not what he could provide. He became more intentional with friends, more intimate in conversation, and less driven by outside opinions. Mentors also played a key role. One challenged him to rest beyond sleep and prepare mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Another followed up with real accountability, proving that support can be energy given, not energy taken. Over time, Tamar gained the tools to protect his energy, choose healthier circles, and rebuild his confidence from the inside out.
Reflections
Today, Tamar Jackson knows his non-negotiable values and lives by healthy boundaries that act like directions, not walls. He is more present with his children, more grounded at home, and less controlled by insecurity or buried pain. He trusts himself to face what he used to avoid, and he has a clearer sense of purpose. What once felt like survival has been replaced with steadier peace, and that peace now fuels how he serves, leads, and coaches others.